Nearly every day I go through my comments. It's a lot of replies generally a great amount of people thanking me for my earlier comments, occasionally there is someone who writes a longer comment of gratitude and that really warms my heart. I'm happy when I make others happy.
However every now and then someone tells me I'm rude. I'm pretty blunt and I do get called rude often enough in real like to agree that I can be. I have read those comments again sometimes and agreed that maybe I was bit too harsh. Over the years I've learnt to put critique between compliments to make it less harsh and sometimes I keep my mouth shut. Especially with people who I know get hurt at the slightest hint of critique, because it really isn't my intention to hurt anyone.
But then today I get a comment on my comment. It wasn't by the artist whose work I commented. She said that when a person asks for a critique I should give some, but when they don't I come off as rude. What I said on my comment was that while the anatomy on one character looks good the other seemed a bit stiff, doll-like. Shouldn't I have said that? I think I wrote a rather sassy reply to that actually.... yeah. But not as sassy as I'm about to get.
I personally like getting comments that go deeper than "Awesome". I don't think there is any point in writing a one word comment that just says something nice when in reality you see something you could point out. But it could be that I am wrong here. I could be one of the few who doesn't mind their mistakes brought out. I agree that when you have nothing good to say you should say nothing, but what if I have both good to say and bad? Should I cut the bad out if the person doesn't specifically ask for it? In my mind people are getting a bit too touchy. The world isn't a soft cloud of cotton candy where everyone only says the good. I don't want to hurt anyone, but isn't a bit of critique that helps us involve?
I don't think I could simply cut out the bad. It feels like I'm no longer being honest, but then - maybe - I should indeed say nothing at all when the person doesn't ask for any critique.
Give me your thoughts please. Honestly. I'm asking.